Maine rejects same-sex marriage… Is it really happening again?

I don’t know why I continue to be surprised at the fear and ignorance of voters regarding same-sex marriage.

Loss in Maine Sets Back Drive for Same-Sex Marriage

This picture brings back the memories and pain our family experienced a year ago as we watched with shock, the returns come in and the rights of my gay children go out, because of Proposition 8 in California.  In California?? Really??  This liberal “gay-friendly” state?

I am hearing the same words… in Maine, the liberal “live and let live” state,  the cries of the LGBT community across the country, “If we can’t win Maine, then where can we win?”

So mourn for a moment, let the tears fall and then regroup and carry on.

The tactic of using personal conversations to press for marriage equality cannot be abandoned after Tuesday’s resounding vote, and several advocates said that, if anything, the defeat called for more such conversations around the country.

Evan Wolfson, executive director of the national gay rights group Freedom to Marry, said the loss in Maine underscored “the fact that we need to continue those conversations and make ourselves visible as families in communities.”

He added, “It shows we have just not done it long enough and deep enough, even in a place like Maine.”

Perhaps we as straight Moms have not had that conversation long enough or deep enough with our neighbors, our friends, our co-workers and those sitting beside us in church.

How do we defuse NOM’s (National Organization for Marriage),  claim that legalizing same-sex marriage would lead to children learning about it at school?  The same tactics were used successfully in the California campaign and will no doubt be used again soon in New Jersey and New York.

“Sadly and unsurprisingly there’s a consistent theme that somehow gay people are a threat to children,” Ms. Pizer said. “And it’s hard to prove one’s nonthreatening, honest humanity with a sound bite. You prove it through relationships, and relationships take time.”

And it takes consistent exposure… “coming out” again and again.  Exposing yourself, your children, your friends to your view of the beauty, love and integrity of our gay family members and friends.  In the words of one of my mentors Rob and Katherine Steffenson, “If you knew my son and his partner, you would love them”

As we continue to have conversations everywhere we go, every chance we get sending the message that we are standing by our gay children and their rights, it will become the norm instead of the feared.

One thought on “Maine rejects same-sex marriage… Is it really happening again?

  1. Duwayne Anderson

    The fight for civil rights has been a long one. The time scale is basically generational, with the new generation replacing the old with new-found discoveries that the “different” ones (for whatever reason) were not the devils we’d been led to believe.

    In each case the war has been eventually won. This war is no different. There will be battles lost, but in the end (because it’s right) people will come to see our Gay sons, brothers, sisters, aunts, and cousins as human beings.

    The important thing is to not get discouraged. And remember, you are writing history. A hundred years from now people won’t remember the names of those that contributed to Proposition 8; but they will remember you and others that championed civil rights.


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