You may have noticed the new addition “Dads for Equality” to my blogs title, which reflects my dear husband Steve’s acceptance to visually and vocally join me here. As a point of clarification, I would like to point out the part Steve has played in my journey. If it were not for him, I would probably not be doing much in the LGBT community. His support and encouragement in addressing the issues rose by our communities and the Mormon Church, and taking a vocal and visible stand against the inequalities, is what got “me” here; rather is what got “us” here.
Steve has a powerful perspective on the issue in that he was very homophobic in his teens and early adult years. His journey out of homophobia started with the suicide of a young gay brother-in-law and Steve’s experience in giving the closing prayer at his funeral. It took him years to fully reconcile his opinions regarding gay issues and arrive where he was when we met ten years ago. Steve has risked much in choosing to stand up for his gay step-children’s rights at the peril of his relationship with his biological children, parents, business associates and friends. (Primarily over speaking out against the Mormon Church’s position and then resigning his membership.)
Dad’s standing up for their gay children is sadly, very rare. Most gay men we talk to gave up hoping for that long ago. In our community, few men seem “man enough” to accept their child’s homosexuality. As you continue to visit the blog, I know you will grow to love him—as I do.