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Threatened by Cancer, Cushing’s and Expenses

Moms for Equality Founder and LGBTQ Activist, Linda Stay’s future is being threatened by aggressive Breast Cancer, Cushing’s Disease and the lack of funds needed to have victory over them.  Please contribute what you can today and encourage others to donate also so Linda can have the best lifesaving outcome today as well as the best quality of life in the years to come.

We are only at 29% of our fundraising needs. Please donate at her site today:
http://www.youcaring.com/lindaLindaUSA

A Mother’s Gratitude and Plea ~ Parents, come out

August 4, 2010.  My daughter Amanda’s text said it all:  “What a great day to be alive, to be gay, to be a woman, to be human.  This feeling inside of me is indescribable!  To be equal!  WOW!”

Just hours later I saw my son Tyler, with a tear rolling down his cheek, pictured with his husband Spencer on the cover of The Huffington Post with the title “EL8TED!”.  The picture was taken as they stood outside the federal courthouse, where Judge Walker’s decision had just been handed down ruling that Proposition 8 — California’s constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage — was unconstitutional.

YES!  That is exactly what I was feeling, on that historic and triumphant day:  elated, ecstatic, jumping for joy!  I was filled with renewed hope for my children, their children, and all those to come.  As a mother and a grandmother, I believed that all of my children are equally deserving of the rights and protections provided by our government.  It was euphoric to have a federal judge, for the first time, validate that, and reach the same conclusion.

My mind reflects back on the emotional ride of the past two years.  From the invigorating high of June 17, 2008, when Tyler married Spencer in the San Francisco city hall rotunda with Harvey Milk’s bust looking over his shoulder, to the utter shock, disbelief, and heartbreak of November 5, 2008, when we watched equality be overruled by voters in California motivated by fear and misinformation.  The grief I felt due to the loss of the dream of marriage equality for all my children was horrific.  In addition, the realization, which quickly came that, my pain was in large part caused by my own Mormon faith, the leaders of which were men I once trusted for all of my guidance and solace, was unbearable.  As documented in the recent documentary 8:  The Mormon Proposition and elsewhere, Mormon members accounted for as much as 71% of the monetary contributions used to fund Prop 8 and 90% of its volunteers.

Yet today, nearly two years later, I am grateful to the Mormon Church leaders for forcing me to examine what I truly believe in and stand for.  Their hurtful acts stirred within me the passion and courage of a mother bear protecting her cubs.  It gave me the courage to “come out” of my hiding place, behind church doors, and declare to the world that my family is most important, our values count, and choosing love over fear, children over dogma, and equality over discrimination is what God would have me do.

As people gathered in my small town of St. George, Utah this past week for a rally celebrating the Prop 8 court decision, I was sadly reminded that not many parents stand as firmly by their children.  In fact, my husband Steve and I were the only parents in the group of almost 100 people!  Thinking back on this, I cannot help asking:  “Why?  Where are you, parents?”  As long as you stay hidden, you leave your children standing alone.  If you believe, as I do, that all our children deserve fairness and equal rights, then I beg you to have the courage of your children and show yourselves, your love, and your support.

Full equality will come when we normalize “gay” — normalize gay families, gay marriages, and gay children.  Parents who refuse to embrace this part of their child, or choose to ignore it, miss a beautiful world of amazing people full of goodness and love.  I know it is not easy.  As I have stepped into the rainbow light these past two years, many have rejected me — including family members, business associates, and friends.  However, the many new people that have come into my life and encircled me with their love have filled that gap one hundred fold!

The journey for full equality took an exciting step forward with Judge Walker’s ruling to overturn Proposition 8.  I believe he arrived at many of his conclusions by witnessing the personal and real life nature of the damage done to families by society’s refusal to afford equal treatment to our gay and lesbian children.

Therefore, I take this opportunity to put out this plea:  parents, join this march for equality.  I ask you to put a human face on this movement.  Share who your children are with your friends, your co-workers, your siblings, with everyone.  When you hear derogatory comments about gay or lesbian people, or the rampant propaganda and misinformation that are out there regarding them, all you need to say is, “I have a gay son or a lesbian daughter.  If you knew them, you would love them.”  It is that simple.

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Linda is a former fifth generation Mormon, who with her husband Steve, started MomsForEquality.com or DadsForEquality.com to encourage parents to “come out” and be vocal on behalf their children’s rights.  She refers to herself as an “accidental activist” and is featured with her family in the recent documentary film 8: The Mormon Proposition, which premiered at the 2010 Sundance film festival.

15 Minutes of Fame on FoxNews.com

We are amazed at how powerful FoxNews.com makes Linda sound, a mom standing up for her kids, in this article.

Be sure to check out the venomous comments about Linda by Fox News readers.  We keep looking for one by Glen Beck.  Add one of your own!

We love who you are,

Steve & Linda

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New Documentary Exposes Mormon Church’s Alleged Secret Involvement in Passage of Proposition 8

By Hollie McKay

Published July 16, 2010

| FoxNews.com

Linda Stay joined forces with filmmaker Reed Cowan to detail the prominent role the Mormons played in the reinstatement of Prop 8 in the new documentary “8: The Mormon Proposition.”

Following a lengthy investigation, California’s Fair Political Practices Commission ordered The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints last month to pay a $5,539 fine for failing to accurately report $37,000 in contributions to the victorious effort to pass Proposition 8, which banned same-sex marriages in California in 2008.

One of the key figures behind exposing the Church was Linda Stay, whose ancestor was a founding member. But Stay parted ways with the Church in 2008, and later joined forces with filmmaker Reed Cowan to detail the prominent role the Mormons played in the reinstatement of Prop 8 in the new documentary “8: The Mormon Proposition”, which is narrated by Oscar-winning “Milk” writer, Lance Dustin Black.

“The documents we exposed really started a lot of activity; I believe that certainly the film did play a part in bringing to light what the Church did. Audiences have been shocked – members of the Church knew it was involved in so many ways, but they had no idea about the extent of the involvement,” Stay, who has a gay son and lesbian daughter as well as seven other children, told Pop Tarts. “I hope this sends a message loud and clear.”

A spokesperson for the Mormon Church said they had not seen the film.

“We have not seen ‘8: The Mormon Proposition.’ However, judging from the trailer and background material online, it appears that accuracy and truth are rare commodities in this film,” Kim Farah, a representative for the LDS Church told us. “Clearly, anyone looking for balance and thoughtful discussion of a serious topic will need to look elsewhere.”

In their defense, the LDS Church stated that the violations were unintentional and that the Church mistakenly overlooked the daily reporting requirement and instead reported those contributions together in a later filing.

Cowan initially intended to make a documentary on the issue of gay homelessness and suicide in Utah, but soon realized that, in his opinion, the homophobia that propels otherwise loving parents to kick their teens out of home is deeply entrenched in Mormon ideology.  He and Stay have also sought to illuminate what they believe to be hypocrisy embedded in the Church’s act of funneling money in the campaign to fight the legalization of same sex marriage.

“As a Mormon, I knew the Church’s stand on homosexuality,” Stay said.  “We weren’t expecting them to change that, but for them to aggressively promote and create ads preaching that religions would lose their freedom of speech and freedom of assembly, that they would have to marry gays in their temples, swayed the whole proposition.”

After a limited theatrical release, “8” was released on DVD this week, and Stay is now urging Mormons to stand up to the Church and its strong stance against marriage equality for gays and lesbians.

But, not surprisingly, a number of members are less-than-impressed with the documentary.

“The director has certainly received some hate mail,” Stay said.  We’ve received some derogatory statements from people. And that’s to be expected.”

But negative feedback is no deterrent for Stay, who has set up her own website MomsForEquality.com and is in the process of writing a book in the quest for “spiritual equality” across the entire nation.

http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2010/07/16/new-documentary-follows-mormon-churchs-involvement-passage-proposition/

Documentation for 8: The Mormon Proposition

The people at MormonsForMarriage.com have been doing an amazing job of providing documentation for the Mormon referenced content of the film 8: The Mormon Proposition.  Many of the links take you to the very detailed writings of Connell O’Donovan.

You will find all this information very beneficial as you share the documentary with active Mormons.

Here are a couple of their post:

Wait a Minute – Is That Really True?

Folks watching 8:The Mormon Proposition for the first time this week have been coming up with questions and concerns about the movie’s claims.  Here’s a little bit of fact checking and contextualization for those of you looking for it.

Satellite Broadcast Training

Reed Cowan begins this movie with clips from a satellite broadcast which originally aired October 8, 2008 from Salt Lake City to every stake center in California.  He uses a (probably) surreptitious audio recording of the broadcast, so the audio is not great.  It is accurate, however, and the text is subtitled for ease of viewing.  A transcript of the whole meeting can be found here.  The video for these clips is based on the short video clips once publicly available from the church’s website, www.lds.org and www.preservingmarriage.org.  Since the officially available video clips did not include much of what Cowan used in his movie, he elected to use clips of the video, edited to obscure the details, as background for the audio quotes he wanted to include.  The visual effect is a bit ominous.

“Secret” Documents and Hawaii

A good portion of the early part of the movie includes references to LDS Church documents received by Fred Karger.  The documents are correspondence between Elder Loren C. Dunn and several other LDS General Authorities.  Elder Dunn served in the LDS Area Presidency for the North America Northwest Area, which included California and Hawaii in the mid-1990s when the LDS Church involved itself in Hawaii’s same-sex marriage struggles.  Church involvement in this campaign has been documented here and in The Mormon Hierarchy: Extensions of Power by historian D. Michael Quinn.  Karger’s documents expand on what was already known and provide even more depth and details of the Church’s Public Affairs Committee actions.  Documents cited in the movie include  the documents here.

Mormon Financial Contributions

Karger suggests that individual Mormons donated 70% of the money contributed to the Protect Marriage coalition.  [Other sites here and here don’t attribute quite that much to LDS donors, but neither do they say their information is complete or exhaustive.  Karger hints that some of those he identified as being LDS were people who (a) contributed to Mormon Mitt Romney’s presidential campaign and (b) sent in large sums of money to the Protect Marriage coalition after the First Presidency letter was read in Sacrament Meetings across California at the end of June, 2008.  Notations about BYU attendance were also likely indications that donors were Mormon as well.  And, in reality, Mormons are not particularly quiet about their religious affiliations online – they talk about wards and stakes and Relief Society and FHE and home teaching/visiting teaching and callings on a regular basis, so it’s not too hard to identify them.

Total donation information can be found at the California Secretary of State’s page, and Mormonsfor8.com includes a breakdown of donations by state, indicating that the majority of donations came from California residents.

There were special PO Boxes for receiving LDS donation forms to the Protect Marriage coalition.  Forms from the general public were sent to P.O. Box 162657, Sacramento, CA and those from LDS members were sent to P.O. Box 819, Placentia, CA.  Assessments were made for stakes, as had been done in Hawaii and previously in California during Prop 22.  Individual members were contacted with suggested donations as was done in this blog post.

Certainly the Church knows how much its members gave, and if the media reports were way over the top and completely inaccurate, the Church could certainly provide correct numbers.  Thus far, it has not.

Church Discipline and Excommunications

While it’s possible that one or two members may have been directly threatened with church discipline as strict as formal excommunication or loss of salvation when they were asked to donate, the vast majority of potential member donors did not receive overt, explicit pressure like that.  Many were told that donations to support Proposition 8 should be given the same importance as tithing (which is necessary to pay in order for a member to be worthy to enter the temple).  Many were told that supporting Proposition 8 was the same thing as supporting the prophet (implying that non-support of the initiative was the same as non-support of the prophet).

More than a few members were subject so some form of ecclesiastical pressure regarding their involvement (or lack thereof) in the campaign.  Several had temple recommends revoked and others were unable to get renewed recommends.  Others were released from callings within the church, and others were asked to stop speaking out against the proposition if they wanted to continue to serve in callings.  Some members resigned from callings on their own, or turned down callings, citing their lack of support for the Church’s actions during the campaign.

There is no doubt that members were given a not-so-subtle message that supporting Proposition 8 was a righteous, obedient and holy thing they needed to do as good members of the Church.  As ecclesiastical leaders hold the ability to judge whether their adherents are worthy of eternal salvation or not, those leaders must be very, very careful what they ask of their followers.  When using this lever to move the Saints, Church leaders need not exert much effort at all before members are enthusiastically picking up the banner and moving forward with gusto.

National Organization for Marriage

Karger suggests that the National Organization for Marriage is a Mormon-instigated and/or controlled “front group” to fight SSM across the nation, much like Hawaii’s Future Today or Save Traditional Marriage-’98 were when they were created in Hawaii.  Certainly, Matthew Holland is LDS and was one of the early founders of the group.  It’s also no secret that Mormon author Orson Scott Card is now serving as Holland’s replacement on the NOM Board.  The jury is still out on the details of Mormon involvement in NOM, but it’s clear that Proposition 8 would not have gotten onto California’s ballot without NOM’s involvement.

Electroshock Therapy at BYU

The film discusses electroshock therapy at BYU a couple of decades ago, and a more complete account may be found here.

Gay Suicides and Stuart Matis

Stuart Matis committed suicide at an LDS church building in Los Altos, California, in March 2000, just before Californians voted on Proposition 22, the predecessor to Prop 8.  Information about his suicide has been discussed here and here.

In a couple more days, we’ll examine some more things like accounts about:
—Training members to be election volunteers walking precincts, supervising efforts in every ZIP code
—Political Tactics/fearmongering arguments/6 Consequences
—LDS Church official reporting of Non-monetary contributions and fines assessed
—Homelessness/Rejection of Gay Youth
—Quotes by church leaders about homosexuality cited in the film

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They Said What? When?

About half way through 8:The Mormon Proposition, a handful of quotes attributed to Mormon church leaders fade on to and off of the screen.  Were the quotes accurate?  Were they taken in context? Were they recent or ancient?  You decide.  There are a couple of quotes missing, but I didn’t want to leave you hanging while I found time to grab the info on them:

“How will these be stopped? Only by the destruction of those who practice them. The only way is… for the Lord to wipe them out.” – George Q. Cannon, Mormon Apostle

George Quayle Cannon was the First Counselor in the First Presidency when he uttered those words at the October 1897 General Conference. The background for the whole quote included below describing how “a man” in England was known to be author Oscar Wilde can be found at this link which is a revised and expanded version of an article written by Connell O’Donovan, “‘The Abominable and Detestable Crime Against Nature’: A Brief History of Homosexuality and Mormonism, 1840-1980”, Brent Corcoran (ed.), Multiply and Replenish: Mormon Essays on Sex and Family, (Salt Lake City: Signature Books, 1994), pp. 144-5

“In England a short time ago a man [Oscar Wilde] who had posed in society as a man of culture and of taste, and who lectured upon esthetics, was found to be guilty of a most abominable crime – a crime for which under the old law the penalty was death; a crime which was practiced by the nations of old, and caused God to command their destruction and extirpation. This crime was proved against this man, and some of his associates were what are called noblemen. He was sent to prison. His term of imprisonment having expired, he comes from prison, and is now engaged, it is so published, in writing a book, and, we suppose is received into society, though guilty of this nameless crime. And is this common; If we may believe that which is told to us, without going into researches ourselves, it and other kindred wickedness, is far too common. The same sin that caused the utter destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah! This and other abominable crimes are being practiced. How will these be stopped? Only by the destruction of those who practice them. Why, if a little nest of them were left that were guilty of these things, they would soon corrupt others, as some are being corrupted among us. In coming to these mountains we hoped to find a place where we could live secluded from the abominations of Babylon. But here in this secluded place wickedness intrudes itself, and is practiced in this land which we have dedicated to the Lord as a land of Zion! How can this be stopped? Not while those who have knowledge of these filthy crimes exist. The only way, according to all that I can understand as the word of God, is for the Lord to wipe them out, that there will be none left to perpetuate the knowledge of these dreadful practices among the children of men. And God will do it, as sure as He has spoken by the mouths of His prophets. He will destroy the wicked, and those who will be left will be like the Nephites after the wicked were all killed off; they were righteous men and women who lived for over two hundred years according to the law of heaven.” [emphasis O’Donovan’s]

“Homosexuality is an ugly sin. Repugnant, like adultery and incest and beastiality (sic), they carry the death penalty under mosaic (sic) law.” – Spencer W. Kimball, Mormon prophet

This quote is from the oft-cited book, Miracle of Forgiveness written by Spencer W. Kimball in 1969 before he was the President of the Church. As he was an apostle at the time, however, church members sustained and viewed him as a “prophet, seer and revelator.” Although it is now more than 40 years old, it continues to be used and quoted from in Church materials and lesson manuals, although much of the harshest language has been toned down or not referred to. Edward Kimball, son and biographer of Spencer Kimball, was interviewed in a podcast in March 2010 and discussed the realization that, “We achieve more by a soft word rather than we do by the harsh.”

The full quote in context is from Chapter 6, Crime Against Nature. (Other “ugly sins” in the book include fornication, (unwed) pregnancy and abortion.)

Homosexuality is an ugly sin, repugnant to those who find no temptation in it, as well as to many past offenders who are seeking a way out of its clutches.  It is embarrassing and unpleasant as a subject for discussion but because of its prevalence, the need to warn the uninitiated, and the desire to help those who may already be involved in it, it is discussed in this chapter.

This perversion is defined as “sexual desire for those of the same sex or sexual relations between individuals of the same sex,” whether men or women. It is a sin of the ages. It was present in Israel’s wandering days as well as after and before. It was tolerated by the Greeks. It was prevalent in decaying Rome. The ancient cities of Sodom and Gomorrah are symbols of wretched wickedness more especially related to this perversion, as the incident of Lot’s visitors indicates. (See Gen. 19:5.) So degenerate had Sodom become that not ten righteous people could be found (see Gen. 18:23-32), and the Lord had to destroy it. But the revolting practice has persisted. As far back as Henry the Eighth this vice was referred to as “the abominable and detestable crime against nature.” Some of our own statutes have followed that apt and descriptive wording.

Sin in sex practices tends to have a “snowballing” effect. As the restraints fall away, Satan incites the carnal man to ever-deepening degeneracy in his search for excitement until in many instances he is lost to any former considerations of decency. Thus it is that through the ages, perhaps as an extension of homosexual practices, men and women have sunk even to seeking sexual satisfactions with animals.

Unnatural and Wrong

All such deviations from normal, proper heterosexual relationships are not merely unnatural but wrong in the sight of God. Like adultery, incest, and bestiality they carried the death penalty under the Mosaic law. (Miracle of Forgiveness, pp 77-78).

Homosexual abominations are fast becoming the way of life among the wicked ungodly.  – Bruce R. McConkie, Mormon Apostle

Elder McConkie said these words in the October, 1980 General Conference (as reported in the November 1980 Ensign, p. 50). He is perhaps most well-known for writing the now-out-of-print book, Mormon Doctrine. Until recently nearly every manual and study guide in the Church had at least one quote from that book, despite the fact that it is was not every an official study guide created by a unanimous vote of Church leaders.

We live in a day of evil and wickedness. The generality of men are carnal, sensual, and devilish. They have forgotten God and are reveling in the lusts of the flesh. Crime, immorality, abortions, and homosexual abominations are fast becoming the norm of life among the wicked and ungodly. The world will soon be as corrupt as it was in the days of Noah.

If any of us are to escape the perils that lie ahead, if any of us are to abide the day of the Lord’s return, if any of us are to gain peace in this life and be inheritors of eternal life in the world to come, we must receive the message sent from on high and conform to the counsel it contains.

Gays have a problem. – Gordon B. Hinckley, Mormon Prophet

Former Church President Gordon B. Hinckley made this statement during an interview with Larry King on CNN on December 26, 2004.

KING: … I know that the Church is opposed to gay marriage.

HINCKLEY: Yes.

KING: Do you have an alternative? Do you like the idea of civil unions?

HINCKLEY: Well, we’re not anti-gay. We are pro-family. Let me put it that way.

And we love these people and try to work with them and help them. We know they have a problem. We want to help them solve that problem.

KING: A problem they caused, or they were born with?

HINCKLEY: I don’t know. I’m not an expert on these things. I don’t pretend to be an expert on these things. The fact is, they have a problem.

KING: Do you favor some sort of state union?

HINCKLEY: Well, we want to be very careful about that, because that – whatever may lead to gay marriage, we’re not in favor of.

We – many people don’t get married. Goodness sakes alive. You know that.

Many people who have to discipline themselves. If they transgress, they become subject to the discipline of the Church. But we try in every way that we know how to help them, to assist them, to bless their lives.

After 8:, What do we do now?

We have been on a whirlwind tour with 8: The Mormon Proposition to Los Angeles, San Diego, Salt Lake City

Dustin Lance Black - Egyptian Theatre LA

and tomorrow, San Francisco for the screening on June 18th.  The response has been remarkable.  The press is very interested with the timing of the ruling against the LDS Church and the resumption of the federal case on Proposition 8 it appears the universe has a mission for this film.

CNN Interview - LA

The most asked question at film festival Q&A sessions is “What can we do now?”

If we are going to hold the Mormon Church and other religions accountable, we must share this information exposed in this film.  Knowledge is power.  We hear it again and again, “I had no idea this was happening.”  Voters need to be educated.  It doesn’t matter where you stand on the issue of same-sex marriage.  The fact that a powerful coalition was able to sway a vote and stay completely anonymous should be illegal and is certainly unethical.

Tower Theatre - SLC

Join the Facebook Event page and commit to sharing 8:  The Mormon Proposition.  Start planning to personally share this film with those closest to you, and talk about it afterwards! See it together at the theater or in your homes through Video on Demand starting June 18th. Please share your ideas and results.  It is creating dialogue that leads to understanding which leads to change.  Change is good!


Opening June 18

Atlanta – Landmark Midtown Art Cinema
Boston – The Coolidge Corner Theater
Chicago – Gene Siskel Film Center
Dallas – Angelika Dallas
Ft. Lauderdale – Gateway
Honolulu – Kahala 8 Theater
Houston – Angelika Houston
New York City – Village East Cinema, Chelsea Clearview
Los Angeles – Laemmle’s Sunset Five
Palm Springs – Camelot Theaters
Scottsdale/Phoenix – Harkins Camelview 5
Salt Lake City – Tower Theater
San Diego- Reading Theater- Gaslamp 15
Spokane – Magic Lantern Theater
Washington, DC – AFI Silver Springs

Opening June 25

San Francisco – Presidio Theater
San Francisco – Sundance Kabuki Theater
Berkeley – Rialto Elmwood Berkeley
Santa Rosa – Rialto Cinemas Lakeside

Opening July 2

Denver – Film Society at Starz Film Center

8: The Mormon Proposition Festival Screenings

Here are some festivals “8: The Mormon Proposition” is playing at before the theatrical release on June 18th:

Saturday, May 29 at 7:15pm
Tuesday, June 1 at 7:25pm
Jacob Burns/Out at the Movies     Jacob Burns Film Center Theater
364 Manville Road  Pleasantville, NY 10570

Sunday, May 30 at 12:30pm
Honolulu Rainbow Film Festival
The Honolulu Academy of Art:  Doris Duke Theatre
900 South Beretania Street   Honolulu, HI 96814

Sunday, May 30, 2010, 3:00pm
Connecticut Gay & Lesbian Film Festival
Cinestudio Theater, Trinity College   Hartford, CT

Friday, June 4th, 7pm
Portland QDoc        Clinton Street Theater
2522 SE Clinton Street

Saturday, June 5, 5:30pm
NewFest/NY       SVA Theatre
333 W. 23rd St   New York, NY 10011 (between Eighth and Ninth)

Monday, June 7, 7:00 pm
and Tuesday, June 8, 4:15 pm
Seattle International Film Festival     Egyptian Theatre (both screenings)
801 East Pine Street       Seattle, WA 98122-3837

Thursday, June 10, 8pm
deadCENTER Film Festival       Kerr Auditorium
123 Robert S Kerr
Oklahoma City, OK 73102

Friday, June 11 at 7:30pm
Damn These Heels LGBT Film Festival     The Tower Theatre
876 E. 900 S.      Salt Lake City, UT 84105

Friday, June 18, 7:00pm
Frameline San Francisco         Victoria Theater,
2961 16th Street     San Francisco, CA 94103-3633

Thursday, June 17th noon
and Saturday, June 19 at noon
Crown & Anchor      Provincetown Film Festival

8: The Mormon Proposition – What it is, What it isn’t

The bumper sticker said it well: “Focus on Your Own Damn Family.”

8: The Mormon Proposition, reflects the efforts of those that created it and us that are in it, to hold OUR former church accountable for the pain they knowingly inflicted on OUR families and the LGBT community.

– The documentary IS NOT about disagreeing with the church’s moral standards or their right to spend their money on issues they feel are important.

– It IS about hypocrisy; how the leaders of a church (that says it is all about “being honest in our dealings with our fellow men”), knowingly created and funded dishonest ads to promote their own moral agenda; and (by their own admissions) hid their involvement.  The Church stated in their own documents, that if the voters knew the extent of the church’s involvement, it would negatively impact the vote.

– This documentary does not claim that the LDS Church did this alone, even though at its strong urging, its members (only 2% of the voters) donated over 70% of the money contributed and over 90% of the volunteer efforts.

We know that when most members of the LDS Church see this film they will be shocked at what their leaders did, and a few scary fanatics will sternly defend their leaders rights to use lies,  deception, or ??? in the name of God.  “It’s better that one man should parish (be killed) than a whole nation dwindle in unbelief.” Book of Mormon 1 Nephi 4

We would hope the displeased members of other groups, be they Catholic, Protestant, African American, Latino, Baptist…, would hold their leaders accountable as well.

Anyone feeling to criticize it should see it first, as they will find as Variety’s review states: “8” actually spends more time trying to humanize homosexuals than to demonize those who hate them.

It opens in selected cities June 18th, and on VOD.  Available on DVD July 6th.

Watch the NEW trailer: http://trailers.apple.com/trailers/independent/8themormonproposition/

I Love You, It’s OK. I Love You.

It’s been reported by the America Psychological Association that up to 1 in every 10 people identify as being gay? What should a parent do if their child is that one?

This is my experience of discovering my oldest son Tyler’s secret, and how it impacted my life.

10 years ago, for some unusual reason I awoke at 2 am, picked up the phone, and heard two male voices, one of which was my sons, obviously talking to someone he had met online. I was horrified, devastated, and angry!  My ‘knee-jerk’ reaction was to storm down the stairs to scream and shake some sense into him.

Here I was in the midst of a horrific divorce, having recently fled our small town in Idaho, literally taking my children from their beds at 4 am to escape a volatile situation, while at the same time fighting a life threatening brain tumor.  How could Tyler do this to me?

Through my 18-year abusive marriage, Tyler was my right hand, my rock.  He was kind and tender to the younger children, bright, talented, an over achiever who excelled in everything he did.  He had sacrificed so much when we drove away that night, leaving his senior year leadership position, the starring role in the play, the jazz choir and his Latin ballroom partner and coach with whom he held a world ranking.  He was a model child, what every mother would hope for in a son….  I knew he was different.  He had an amazing spirit and I was sure God sent him to me as my angel.  I believed he would someday be the prophet of my church.

What do I do?  As an extremely devout, proud, 5th generation Mormon, I could not recall ever being taught how to deal with this situation. So in my moment of terror, I fell to my knees.  “God, help me find the words.  Please don’t let me screw this up.  Do not let me say the wrong thing…  You had better intervene here because I just want to tear into him!”  I was reeling; my body was shaking as I made my way down the stairs.  The instant I opened the family room door, he turned, his face full of fear as he abruptly hung up the phone.

I motioned for him to come to the couch.  As we sat down a peaceful feeling took over.  I felt loving arms embrace us both and I heard someone else’s words   saying, “I love you. It’s okay.  I love you.”  We sat together, with what every fiber of my being knew was God, enfolded in His arms.  We cried.  Engulfed in the purest love I had ever experienced, that moment lasted for hours… with the only words spoken, “I love you, it’s okay, I love you.”

I wish I had I completely transformed in those moments, with total acceptance of my son’s homosexuality.  No, Tyler endured days, weeks, and months of my probing, bombarding him with,Are you sure it’s not a phase? What about your girlfriend? Is this because of your dad?  Did I rely on you too much?  On and on I tried to make some sense of it… to make it fit, but there was no place in my religious reality for it to go.  Yet I kept remembering Gods words, I love you, it is okay.  He knew my son … all of him… and now, so did I.

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Linda Williams Stay is currently working on a new book, that will share her emotional journey as a former devout Mormon mother of two gay children who becomes an avid accidental activist for their rights.  Her family is featured in the documentary “8: The Mormon Proposition” which has put on the heat to get the book done.  Subscribe to her blog www.MomsForEquality.com, to stay posted on her progress, receive new content and updates about the documentary.  Please share this post in its entirety.

Screening Times for 8: The Mormon Proposition

8:  The Mormon Proposition

8: The Mormon Proposition

BREAKING NEWS: 8TMP SCREENING TIMES ANNOUNCED

Hello friends:  Here are our FINAL screening times and places to see 8TMP at SUNDANCE.  I need as many people on the ground helping Jacob Whipple as possible during these and other times he will communicate to you.  Message him through Facebook please.  See below for screening times.  HOPE TO SEE YOU THERE!

BREAKING NEWS:  JUST ANNOUNCED!!!  8TMP SCREENING TIMES:
Sunday, January 24, 2:15 p.m.Racquet Club, Park City
Monday January 25, 5:30 p.m.Library Center Theatre, Park City
Wednesday, January 27, 6:00 p.m.Tower Theatre, SLC
Friday, January 29, noon Temple Theatre, Park City
Saturday, January 30, 9:00 p.m.Screening Room, Sundance Resort

For tickets start here:   http://festival.sundance.org/2010/store/tickets

Good Luck!

Faith Restored

Church Opens Doors for Homeless Gay Teens

I am always grateful to find these types of articles and to have my FAITH restored in religion. YES, a church acting like a church.

A church-turned-shelter for homeless youth in Queens, New York is a far cry from sleeping on the streets after a $200,000 renovation and a partnership with the Ali Forney Center for LGBT youth.

By Michelle Garcia

ALI FORNEY KIDS 3 X390 (SION FULLANA) | ADVOCATE.COM

A converted church in Queens, N.Y., may look like a pleasant youth hostel, but many of its residents made a tough journey to find this new place to call home.

The Ali Forney Center, New York City’s top service organization for homeless youth, found a partner in the local Episcopal diocese, which also took interest in the hardships that many LGBT homeless youths face. The partnership resulted in a $200,000 renovation of St. Andrew’s Church in the Astoria neighborhood of Queens, where 16 young people can now sleep soundly.

Carl Siciliano, executive director of the center, says he’s grateful for the church’s philanthropic outreach.

“So many of these young people are rejected by their families because of religion,” he says. “Kids come in who have been put through exorcisms, and we’ve had kids whose parents make them go see priests who tell them they’re evil and hateful and that they’re going to hell. It’s a really upsetting and unfortunate situation that so many young people are put through this kind of trauma by their parents’ religious beliefs, so it’s very moving to see a religious organization that’s able to say that these youth should be affirmed and cared for, so I’m very grateful to the Episcopal diocese of Long Island for their support.”

Read the rest of the article here

I recently watched the film “For the Bible Tells Me So” which was very well done.  It so closely parallels my own story in taking on the Mormon church in the recent events surrounding Proposition 8.  Our youth are dying because of the sermons they hear in their church… which should be a place of refuge and security, rather than fear and condemnation.

I continue to hear the heartfelt words of Mary Griffith…

“Before you echo Amen in your home or place of worship, think and remember…a child is listening.”

As an ex-mormon zealot I am forever grateful that my God told me to put my arms around my child and tell him “You are okay, I love you, just the way you are. You are Gods gift to me, always have been and that hasn’t changed”.

I only wish more religions who preach God as an omnipotent, all loving being would behave in accordance with what they preach and follow His example.